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“Assuming I am the husband and then my wife comes with this idea, I don’t think I will buy the idea because anything can happen, she might not even die but decide to leave me. If I see a young lady who has not given birth and I want to marry… She loves me and I also love her, marrying her without her own child will be like a hell for her so no matter what… I will not buy the idea. I will rather go for the natural way of spacing my children than going for this thing.” (Fire service personnel, 25–49 years)“Men can easily change, because just in case there is divorce or separation and the man goes in for another woman who has not given birth before, how are they going to manage?” (Policewoman, 25–49 years) .
“Actually with this world which is full of uncertainty, many people may hesitate to go in for such an exercise because you are thinking that oh I am young, something can happen to me, my children and he remarries or something, he has to reproduce again.”(University student, 18–24 years)
“Yes, some men will frustrate you by having affairs with several other women because he knows he cannot make a woman pregnant.” (Policewoman, 25–49 years)“This will be a license for the men to womanize indiscriminately; the woman (wife) will be disrespected because of her husband’s infidelity.” (Hair dresser, 18–24 years)
“For my religion, he can marry another wife so if I should just end him or cut the sperms, if I am too old and he wants marry another woman how would the society even look at new woman…… they would think she is barren but me I don’t think I will go in for vasectomy”. (University student, 18–24 years)“You know with we Muslims the men can marry up to four, so if you the woman gives birth to three children and tell the man that you are tired or you don’t wish to have any more children and he wants more he has to marry another woman; but that woman cannot give birth if the man has gone in for vasectomy and that will be very frustrating for the other wife because she is also a married woman who deserves to have her own children.” (Muslim woman, 18–24 years)
“Some men knowing, they cannot impregnate women will take advantage of it and chase women around he might contract sexually transmitted diseases.” (University Student, 18–24 years).“Men cannot be trusted in the sense that, he would assure you that you are the only woman in his life but when you delve into details you may find out that he is telling a lie, there are others. So if you are my husband and you do vasectomy without my knowledge we will sleep in separate rooms so we are not tempted, that you don’t infect me with any disease.” (Market women, 25–49 years).
What if he gets back from taken a vasectomy and he can’t perform anymore, my sexual health will be endangered oooo! (Muslim Woman, 18–24 years)Me! (Hitting her chest) I wish they would not do it at all, because without it they are cheating already, so, what will happen if they do it (vasectomy)… I’m afraid of the disease aspects which can affect his performance.” (Hair dresser, 18–24 years).
“It is good when his wife has given birth a lot, going to the labor ward a lot of times comes with its own health problems in the future and so, he can go in for it to my benefit…. why not?” (University Student, 18–24 years).
“Let’s say, I have like three children, and once the doctor assures me that it is problem- free procedure, I will allow him to do it. As a woman, I wouldn’t like to take up family planning because I learnt that it can make you bloat and could also make you grow lean, so that is the only reason why.” (Hair dresser, 18–24 years).
“Because of technological advancement, I will encourage him to go for it on my behalf only if the doctor advices so.” (Policewoman, 25–49 years ).
“This family planning will help families to control expenses. Some women are highly fertile such that anytime they go near sex they become pregnant, for all you know the husband of such a woman might not be in a position to take good care of the family. So to such a family, it is good.” (Muslim woman, 18–24 years).“Yes, times are hard ooo!! There is no money in…. some men will give birth with different women anywhere they find themselves, such that when they are dead and gone now these children will also become burdens on the woman, and I do not like that to happen to me.” (Policewoman, 25–49 years)“As I am talking right now I have twins and another child from another woman that I am taking care of now because my husband is a womanizer. I am the one taking care of his three other children so when I tell him to go do vasectomy he will do it, because when he runs away the children will become my burden. I will call him and talk to him in the room at dawn, so that he will go and do it, things are hard for us now.”(Market Woman, 25–59 years)
“The bible encourages us to give birth to as many children as we can but because of economic hardship these days, it is better to go in for the vasectomy”(Hair dresser, 18–24 years)“I may think that he wants to protect himself from having more babies because times are hard. Bible says if you have plenty children and you cannot look after them it is a sin.” (Market woman, 25–49 years).“Sure, you see I spoke to my man, to look at the economy…let’s say we have two, if all of them are females, fine, if all of them are male, fine, if they are mixed, fine. Lucky for us, they are mixed. God has asked us to replenish the earth but the system is hard ooo.”(Fire service personnel, 25–49 years)